5 Ways to Feel Empowered in Relationships
1. Trust yourself
Oh, I could talk hours about this one. I can’t emphasize enough the importance of trusting yourself. I’ll admit it. I’m 32 and only more recently can I say I really started to trust myself and listen to my gut and trust that it won’t steer me wrong. And, I get it, it can be really hard to 1) make tough decisions and 2) trust that it’s the right decision that you make. I 100% get it, and I empathize with you.
However, as we grow up, the decisions only get bigger and more serious, and it’s so important to take the time to listen to yourself, listen to what you need, listen to what feels right, and above all, trust it and trust yourself. The more you trust yourself, the more empowered you’ll feel in your relationships because you’ll be living in the most authentic way possible.
2. Own your decisions
Once you trust yourself, it’s time to own the decisions you make. And I mean own them. Don’t feel sorry about them, don’t question them, and don’t feel guilty about the decision you made and standing up for yourself and owning the decision and everything that comes with it. You might find out the decision didn’t end up being the best possible decision for one reason or another, but that’s okay. You’ll learn and you’ll move on and you’ll handle the situation that then presents itself. But the bottom line is you have to own the decision you make and if you’re trusting yourself that shouldn’t be too hard to do.
3. Speak up
As much as we might wish it were the case, our partners are not mind readers. We might think they know what we’re thinking or wanting or needing, but they really might not have any clue.
Speaking up is paramount for a solid relationship. If you need something, say it. If something upsets you, verbalize it. If you’re confused, ask for clarification. Communication is everything, so be sure to speak up when necessary.
4. Learn to say no
This might be a harder one because it’s not always the easiest to say no to someone we love and care about. However, sometimes that no is what’s needed. Being honest is something we could all do more of. Of course it’s a lot easier to simply “keep the peace” and nod your head and avoid the potential conflict, but that, my friends, is living inauthentically, and where’s the fulfillment in that?
Being honest is different from being rude. Being honest is showing you respect yourself, being honest is mature, and being honest sometimes means saying no.
5. Take care of yourself
Above all, you have to take care of yourself first. Put your oxygen mask on before helping others applies here, too, because if you’re not the best version of yourself possible, how can your relationship be the best possible relationship?
Put yourself first, and give your body, mind, and soul exactly what it needs when it needs it. You’re not being selfish. You’re taking care of yourself so you can then take care of and be there for and with others.